January was Mentor Appreciation Month and at Boys to Men Mentoring we took this opportunity to thank the backbone of our organization for their work. Between volunteer group mentors and staff facilitators, we have more than sixty men who give their time, offer their wisdom and provide stability and accountability in the lives of boys who otherwise may not benefit from any of those qualities from men in their lives. As a small token of thanks, we asked some of the fatherless and at-risk teenage boys in the Boys to Men program to write a short note to a mentor explaining the impact the mentors have had on their lives. The cards we collected were absolutely priceless – from heartfelt expressions of gratitude for the life-changing guidance to simple notes saying they appreciate the support of our mentors. In honor of Mentor Appreciation Month, each of our mentors was mailed one of these hand-written notes from a boy in our program and a personal letter of appreciation from our Mentor Coordinator, John Fojtik. We at Boys to Men would be nothing without the mentors who so selflessly give of themselves to keep this program running. Thank you, dear friends, from the bottom of our hearts! Together, we are changing lives!
“I am now able to speak my truth.” Each month, Boys to Men is now holding 116 groups in San Diego. This month's Spotlight School is Harriet Tubman Village Charter School in La Mesa, which is a part of the San Diego Charter School Consortium. Boys to Men is now in partnership with 6 schools in this consortium and growing with as many as 8 more schools on the waiting list. Dr. Valerie Bailey, the school counselor for Harriet Tubman said, “Our students involved in Boys to Men have made monumental strides since Boys to Men has been at Tubman. I have witnessed significant interpersonal and intrapersonal growth in our boys that are in group. From an outside perspective, it shows that these young men are learning to take responsibility for themselves and their actions. I look forward to continuing the strong, positive relationship that our school has with the Boys to Men mentor program.” Harriett Tubman became part of the Boys to Men family during the 2013-14 school year, and since that time, we have served more than 40 boys, with 14 of these young men also attending the Adventure Mountain Weekend at Sonrise Ranch on Palomar Mountain. Jessie, a young man from Harriet Tubman who went on our last Adventure Weekend said, “Boys to Men has given me the courage to be who I want to be, and not what people expect me to be.” Another boy from this school, Bronson, explained how our group mentoring has changed his life by saying, “Boys to Men gave me the words I needed to speak and be heard by those around me. I am now able to speak my truth.” Our collective goal as an [...]
With so many young men going through our program each year, Boys to Men has an abundance of success stories to share. One teenage boy we are especially proud of is 17-year old Louis Castrejon, who has been involved in Boys to Men Mentoring for more than three years now. Louis was introduced to Boys to Men at a continuation program in an after-school group at Gateway Middle School. In his own words, Louis said, “Without Boys to Men I would definitely be in juvenile hall or jail by now. I was very angry, doing drugs and released my anger on other kids who didn’t deserve it. And then I started going to Boys to Men meetings and they helped me in so many ways. I never had anywhere I could speak and Boys to Men let me be heard.”Watch All Girls Weekend (2016) Full Movie Online Streaming Online and Download Louis joined our program as an initiate and has worked his way up to being a Journeyman. Involvement in the rite of passage of the Adventure Weekends at Palomar Mountain has been a source of great pride for Louis, as he has attended ten of these life-changing retreats and now participates as a leader and a valuable part of making these weekends successful. From a quiet boy with an uncertain future to a confident young man with a bright road ahead, Louis is a perfect example of how Boys to Men can help guide fatherless and at-risk teenage boys to making better choices and transforming their own lives. This new role of leadership has carried over for Louis in his high school education as well, as he is now earning a high GPA and [...]
Purpose of Project Because at-risk youth are more likely to experience failure in school or drop out, schools continue to look for effective interventions for school-related problems affecting at-risk youth. Proponents of mentoring programs hypothesize that mentoring programs could be part of the answer to these problems; however, little research has been conducted evaluating the effectiveness of mentoring programs collaborating with schools. The BTM/middle school collaboration offers a great opportunity to investigate the relationship between mentoring and school counseling. Significance and Rationale The boys in the program are particularly at risk of missing school, low school achievement, being held back, acting out behaviorally, dropping out of school; and adversely affected by poverty, violence and substance abuse. Impact on Participants BTM positively influences student behavior – There are less high level infractions at school, boys are happier, have a more positive outlook on life, have improved self-esteem, and engage in less risk-taking behavior. BTM participants show improved grades, increased attendance, and higher school engagement. Conclusion The case study findings indicated that program participants were able to improve academic performance, behavior, and relationships with adults. These results, taken into context with the challenges associated with this population, should spark a sense of hope and urgency in implementing similar programming in other high-need schools.Watch Full Movie Online Streaming Online and Download Based upon these findings and factors, we highly recommend investing in the further development, research and evaluation of the BTM organization. Study Results Students 96% of students said BTM has helped them care about peoples’ feelings. 78% of students said that BTM has helped them go to school more often. 90% of students said BTM helped them to do better in school. 95% of students said BTM makes them feel better about themselves [...]
Linda Marks: Even A Supermom Can’t Take the Place of A Dad One of the hallmarks of this American culture is self-reliance. Messages about doing it all on our own, and being strong and tough and persevering abound, not only for men, but also for women. When a woman finds herself in the position of being a single mom raising a son on her own, most people look the other way and tell her to just carry on.Watch Brothers (2015) Full Movie Online Streaming Online and Download Young boys learn a lot from their Mom, but the value of a male model can’t be understated. Source: Freedigitalphotos.net When my son was 4 ½, his dad and I divorced after being separated for about a year and a half. I was the primary custodial parent, but my son did have contact with his dad. However, when my son was 12, he and his dad stopped seeing one another. My son had asked his dad to address some serious issues between them, and his dad responded by pulling away. Initially, the separation was very good for my son. He and I finally had the space for my son to have a more “normal life.” Soccer, Red Sox games, movies and leadership conferences all became easier to take part in for my son with his life unencumbered by the issues with his dad. Realizing that my son needed good male role models in his life, I sought out organizations and activities that allowed my son to interact with male mentors. I found Boys to Men New England when he was 12, and over time, BTMNE became a critical part of the emotional foundation for my son’s life. [...]