Become a Mentor

Thank you for your interest in becoming a Boys to Men Mentoring volunteer mentor.

Our next Mentor Information Session will take place on February 10, 2026 at 5:30 PM.
Dinner will be provided.

Following the session, you’ll have the unique opportunity to observe one of our Open Community Mentoring Groups, where you can experience firsthand the safe, supportive space we create for boys and young men.

Please complete and submit the form below, and a member of our team will be in touch with next steps.

BECOME A MENTOR

Become a Mentor

Thank you for your interest in becoming a Boys to Men Mentoring volunteer mentor.

Our Guiding Principles

  • We build communities of men who model what it takes to be a good man.
  • We do not tell the boys how to be good men; we show them by example.
  • We do not give lectures. We simply tell boys how, when we were teenagers, we dealt with the very same issues they face. We also share the lessons we learned and the price we paid for our mistakes.
  • We create trust by telling the truth about our struggles as men. This gives the boys permission to talk about the struggles they face on their journey to manhood.
  • We praise boys for their unique gifts and support them when they screw up.
  • We ask boys what kind of man they want to be, and encourage and support them on their journey to become that good man.

Commitment
The Boys to Men method is to provide a group forum where the boys and men go around the room and discuss their problems and challenges. The mentors contribute by sharing the mistakes and poor choices they made as teenagers, and use their experience to help boys avoid making the same mistakes.

We currently have over 60 weekly group meetings at 33 schools and 2 open community locations throughout San Diego County. To be a mentor at one of our school partner locations, we ask for a minimum commitment of one hour a week for one school year.

In addition, we also offer opportunities for mentors to volunteer at our Adventure Mountain Weekend retreats.

All mentors are required to attend a mentor orientation and receive ongoing feedback and training from Boys to Men staff before and after the weekly group sessions.We encourage prospective mentors to visit a group and “kick the tires” before making a commitment. In order to schedule your first group meeting, please contact our Mentor Coordinator or call our office.

Mentor Testimonials

“As a mentor, I get more than I give. The joy of witnessing positive transformation in our boys is priceless.”

– Chuck

“It is one of the most important things I have ever done in my life.”

– David

“Mentoring in Boys to Men has changed my life. It gave me a chance to help teens talk and open up in a way I was never able to do as a teen. I think I have benefitted as much as the boys”

– Steve

“Being of service to the boys and to Boys to Men has opened and transformed my heart in more ways than I can express. If feels great!”

– Hunter

“Boys to Men has improved my communication and connection with my son Angel.”

– Octavio

Are You the One?

Please reach out. Email us at mentor@boystomen.org or call our office at 619-469-9599.